My wife Laura and I often talk about how lucky we are to live in this time and place, when so many before us fought for rights we take for granted—from the early civil rights movement to marriage equality. Last month, we traveled to the South on our own Civil Rights Tour and were reminded that the human race has so far yet to go. Our current time in history reminds us that we have not evolved as much as we’d like to think.

But here’s the thing. Our QPOC friends and chosen family remind us every day that supporting each other and lifting each other up by sharing life—the ups and downs, and the hilarious—make this a great life indeed. We are fortunate to have the Lokas, a posse of diverse, fabulous Womxn who share freely, often over cocktails and sports, and more often on our daily What’sApp chat. Thank you, Lokas!